{"id":3522,"date":"2024-11-09T15:01:20","date_gmt":"2024-11-09T15:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/?p=3522"},"modified":"2025-05-11T06:31:03","modified_gmt":"2025-05-11T06:31:03","slug":"moeten-in-dienst-van-graag-willen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/moeten-in-dienst-van-graag-willen\/","title":{"rendered":"MOETEN IN DIENST VAN GRAAG WILLEN"},"content":{"rendered":"

In my previous blog I wrote about ikigai,<\/em> a Japanese word that means doing something:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  - that you love 
                  - that you are good at 
                  - what the world needs and 
                  - that you get paid for<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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And my closing line was:\n\"May you, who are reading this, live and work from your heart. May you realize your ikigai!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A friend of mine, who creates beautiful art, responded to this with:\n\"Sure, that\u2019s easy for you to say. You\u2019ve been able to make that happen in your profession. But me? I do what I love, what I\u2019m good at, and what makes the world happy\u2026 and yet I can\u2019t earn a living from it.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She\u2019s right, and this applies not only to her. Many people know what their passion, their mission, their calling is, but they cannot make it their profession because they can\u2019t make a living from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Earning money and doing what fulfills your heart\u2014it\u2019s easier said than done. Notice the word easier. It doesn\u2019t say it\u2019s impossible. In my life, I\u2019ve learned that for the heart<\/em> nothing is impossible. The challenge lies in the execution, in translating your heart\u2019s desires into action through your personality<\/em>I call this \u201cgiving your heart hands and feet.\u201d But how do you do that? When you overlay De Bloem (The Flower) as a template, the answer consists of two interwoven parts:[1]<\/a>You do that by<\/p>\n\n\n\n

being who you are becoming <\/em>and –  te worden wie je bent.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s about your personality (the part of you that becomes,<\/em> where your personal growth occurs) embracing the desire of your heart (the part of you that simply is,<\/em> beyond the historical dimension)) <\/em>This means truly owning this longing of your heart. In English, the phrase is incredibly powerful. ‘I own this.’ <\/em> No doubt, no hesitation. This is my heart, and I am committed to shaping it, no matter what.\n\nThis process of ownership isn\u2019t a one-time event\u2014it\u2019s something you repeat over and over until your heart has settled into every cell of your body. Day in, day out, you let yourself be mentally, emotionally, and physically inspired by your heart. This generates enormous energy and intrinsic motivation. Your heart and personality begin to align: you are who you are becoming.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The second part of the answer is becoming who you are<\/em>This involves expressing who you are and bringing your heart (ge)worden<\/em> into the material world. For my friend, this means concretely exploring her options. It starts with opening herself to a conclusion she\u2019s already reached:\u201cI can\u2019t make this my profession.\u201d And that\u2019s no small thing. It means surrendering to seeing what is<\/em>.[2]<\/em><\/a> \u2014acknowledging reality as it is without resistance. Letting go of resistance against a reality you cannot decisively change is highly effective. It allows you to release frustration, freeing up all the energy you were directing against something, so you can now channel it for something.t\u00e9gen<\/em> vrij, die je nu kan gaan inzetten in energie-v\u00f3\u00f3r. <\/em>ZSeeing what is <\/em>Letting go of resistance against a reality you cannot decisively change is highly effective. It allows you to release frustration, freeing up all the energy you were directing against something, so you can now channel it for something. doen<\/em> – je gaat de tering naar de nering zetten.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, my friend might decide to earn the money she needs in the easiest and most effective way possible, recognizing that this is currently the only way to realize her ikigai.. <\/em>I call this \u201cmust-do in service of want-to-do.\u201d<\/em>.[3]<\/a> She might work four days a week, leaving three days to pursue her passion. And if her art starts generating income, she could transition to a three-day workweek and who knows\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

eeing what is<\/em> empowers you to take action without feeling like a victim. The energy this mindset \u2014must-do in service of want-to-do\u2014 <\/em>gives you can be transformed into inspiration and creativity to realize your ikigai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How simple life can be\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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[1]<\/a> Een bloem heeft een hart en bloemblaadjes. In mijn metafoor van De Bloem bestaat wij mensen  uit twee delen: ons hart en onze drie bloemblaadjes, die de drie elementen van onze persoonlijkheid vormen: ons denken, onze emoties en ons lichaam. Ons hart en onze persoonlijkheid zijn op een non-duale manier met elkaar verbonden. Zie Eva Wolf, The Flower<\/em> (2022), 1.4, 1.11, 3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

[2]<\/a> Idem, 12.2.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

[3]<\/a> Same, <\/em>4.17.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In mijn vorige blog schreef ik over ikigai, een Japans woord dat betekent dat je iets doet                   –                waar je van houdt,                   –                waar je goed in bent                   –                wat de wereld nodig heeft en                   –                waar je voor betaald wordt En mijn slotzin was: ‘Moge jij, die dit leest, leven en werken vanuit […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":3722,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3522","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3522","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3522"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3522\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3703,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3522\/revisions\/3703"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3722"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3522"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3522"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evawolf.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3522"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}